Lying

lie
By definition: it is a type of deception in the form of untruthful statement with the intention to deceive, of with the further intention to maintain a secret or reputation, or to avoid punishment. (wikipedia.org)

Tonight, I’m superbly mad. I can’t sleep. It drives me uncomfortable and retreat to think of the awkwardness (that the person had done because what? I believe the person lied.)

It is such a disappointment. I’m somehow feeling hateful towards the person whom I will condemn that he/she lied.

So, I felt I’m going to do a self-help at google.com. The following is what I found to ease myself and eventually put myself asleep.

Psychology on lying (in which I deliberately summarize from wikipedia again) -
Lying is universal in the human development. Social psychology and development psychology are ‘used’ to make the lie believable.

Assuming at the age 4 and 1/2 children are able to lie convincingly when they learn untruch can avoid punishments for misdeeds. Because their experiences are still prematures, they will sometimes tell extravagant lies not minding whether the statement is believable or not. They will learn throughout the years by watcing people lie and the result of their lies to develop a proper understanding. Habits will (hopefully) change into early adulthood.

Moving on, there are different type of lies:

bald-faced lie, lying by omission, lie-to-children,white lie, emergency lie, perjury, bluffing, misleading, dissembling, careful speaking, exaggeration, jocoselies.

then I skip alot of shebangss,

find this argument, pretty fonding.
 ’When one lies, one undermines trust in society’ [some philospher came with that, wikipedia.org]
From experiences, it makes sense. I lied because I don’t trust.

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Tired of doing the research and recording the findings cause I thought who actually is going to read it. 

I’ll finish off with the ’how to detect’ tips.

How to detect lies (blifaloo.com)
++ Beware of the truth ++

Body language
- physical expression will be limited and stiff. Movements of hands, arms, and legs are toward their own body.

- avoiding eye contact

- hands touching face, throat, and mouth or touching/scartching the nose/behind ear. NOT LIKELY to touch his/her chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional gestures and Contradiction
- timing and duration of emotional gestures are off normal pace. [delayed emotions, stays longer, or suddenly stop]

- off timing or unmatch between emotions gestures/expressions and words. eg, I love it *while opening the gift* — *open the gift* *smile* thne ‘i love it!

- expression are limited to mouth movements instead of the whole face. eg, real smiles will involve jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forhead push down.

Interactions and Reactions
- when guilty, person gets offensive. When innocent, person gets often get offensive.

- a liar usually gets uncomfortable facing the questioner/accuser (may turn his head or body away)

- a liar might unconsciously place objects between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content
- Liar will make use words of the question as the answer. eg, ‘Did you eat the last cookie?” – ‘No I did not eat the last cookie’

- a statement with a contradiction is more likely to be truthful.

- lying by making indirect statements, implying instead of denying

- guilty person speak more. add unnecessary details as they are not comfortable with silene/pauses during conversation.

- liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. when truthful statement is made, the prounoun is emphasized more than the rest of the words in a statement.

- words may be garbled/spoken softly, syntax and grammar may be off.

Other signs of a lie:
- sudden subject change will make innocent confused but liar more relaxed and follow willingly.

- humor and sarcasm is used to avoid subject.

I’ve got all the tips. Tomorrow, I’ll be sure to keep update to what’s going during the lie hunting and perhaps exercise the no-no of lying. lawl

G’night and G’morning everyone.
      -T

 

 

PS. I’m still upset about the fact that Heath Ledger is gone >.<

Tradition: Ladder Climbing & New Year Resolutions

Ladder Climbing

 
Height: approx 4 meters off the ground.

Challenge:

Climb the ladder. Go into the bathroom through the tiny window. Search for the lucky sox.  Then, another satisfy customer! (Thank you got coming!)

The story behind the stunt:

Once upon a time, a sleppy princess went to the bathroom. She brought her luckiest pair of sox with her and put it near the sink. Afraid that the witches would’ve come after her precious sox that said to have magical power, she had this reflex of twisting the lock before closing the door. Suddenly, she realized she has forgotten her mirror in her room. She stepped back out, and closed the bathroom door behind. Swiftly, she ran and got her mirror. She went back to the bathroom but then, realized she was locked out!

The princess cried, “nooo!!!! my sox!! The witches will get it before me”.

Luckily, she wasn’t just a princess. She was also a thinker and an athlete. She got an idea. She remembered that the bathroom window was open. So, she hunt for a ladder. Eureka! she found one of the porch.

“No need for a prince for this, I could do it myself!” thought the Princess.

The princess grabbed the ladder and carried it. She Walked around the castle to get to the bathroom. Seeing the window was far above, she extended the ladder.

A steward insisted to help, but the princess refused, “No! I can do it my own! You just hold the ladder when I’m going up there!” The princess placed the ladder right below the window. She climbed as one steward hold on to the ladder tightly.

Luckily, it was already the modern era, so the princess wore pants, don’t need to worry the steward peeking on her underwear. The princess climbed and climbed. She was elevated above 3 and half meter. She tried to widened the window. Then, she tried to hop on through the gap.

“Oh noo!” She screamed, “I don’t fit!” She knew she couldn’t do it. She slowly descended from the ladder and looking down. “Glupp” “Omg! It’s scary!” and that’s the time the Princess realized she was scared of height. She didnt dare herself to go back up. Given up, she phones all the princes she knew to help her to get her lucky sox.

It turned out. Her housemate, Lady of Earth, came home from work. She saw all the none sense and said, “Alright what’s going on here? What’s wrong with the window?”

“Nothing is wrong with the window,” said princess RoyalDutch, “It’s just me. I left my lucky sox in it after i realized i was locked out the bathroom”

“What?!?!?!?! You’ve left in their!!! The sox that I gave to you for your birthday?!?” exclaimed Lady, “Oh no you better get it, Nevermind I’ll get it! Hold on the ladder.. don’t let me fall or else you better catch me”

and soo Lady of Earth climbed the ladder courageously. She made herway through the window. Then, princess heard the tumbling and crashing from outside. the Princess ran into the castle, ran to the bathroom to see if Lady was okay.

Puff!!!! was the sound that came from the bathroom.The princess only saw her lucky sox on the ground, no sight of Lady.

Thankful yet sad… Lady of Earth had sacrificed her life for her. The princess wanted to honor Lady of Earth. She made a tradition of ladder climbing in every beginning year at winton castle’s second floor bathroom in memory of her.

And she promised herself to lose weight that year so she’ll fit through the window, understanding the pain and misery that Lady had gone through.

Prologue - Well actually, what the princess did after the lost.

- Umm, callipo
- so what happenned? - RoyalDutch

=++++++=

Speaking of resolution, I believe so far I have two for 2008
1. Lose the habit of dot dot dot while chatting online Like (…) [inside joke, now I should note to myself: No dots when speaking to Iman]
2. Lose waist line so I can make my way through the window just in case I make another foolish ‘locking out myself out of a room’

- see you later

It’s in My head

Just last night, I wasn’t able to sleep. I was distracted by the light and the noises coming form the living room. Then deeply, I realize. It was not my surroundings. It was me.

The same person, the same words, the same situation is in my head everysince. It triggered my anger and sadness. I was close to nothing to whatever the person have said or choosen.

I was extremely disappointed that you didn’t know what happen to me. I don’t you bother to ask what happened. It was so small that it hurted.

Because I had expectations of this person.

What does it worth?… nothing

I’ve lost one. Now, I might lose another one.

but then, I’ve also thought

Genuine and honest opinions will  be found from people that has different interests. Yes, It’s about other people. The ones you have ignored and forgotten. Even by making up the little time, they are worth your time and love.

You said you’re worth my time, but I don’t think you’re close to that.