Lying

lie
By definition: it is a type of deception in the form of untruthful statement with the intention to deceive, of with the further intention to maintain a secret or reputation, or to avoid punishment. (wikipedia.org)

Tonight, I’m superbly mad. I can’t sleep. It drives me uncomfortable and retreat to think of the awkwardness (that the person had done because what? I believe the person lied.)

It is such a disappointment. I’m somehow feeling hateful towards the person whom I will condemn that he/she lied.

So, I felt I’m going to do a self-help at google.com. The following is what I found to ease myself and eventually put myself asleep.

Psychology on lying (in which I deliberately summarize from wikipedia again) -
Lying is universal in the human development. Social psychology and development psychology are ‘used’ to make the lie believable.

Assuming at the age 4 and 1/2 children are able to lie convincingly when they learn untruch can avoid punishments for misdeeds. Because their experiences are still prematures, they will sometimes tell extravagant lies not minding whether the statement is believable or not. They will learn throughout the years by watcing people lie and the result of their lies to develop a proper understanding. Habits will (hopefully) change into early adulthood.

Moving on, there are different type of lies:

bald-faced lie, lying by omission, lie-to-children,white lie, emergency lie, perjury, bluffing, misleading, dissembling, careful speaking, exaggeration, jocoselies.

then I skip alot of shebangss,

find this argument, pretty fonding.
 ’When one lies, one undermines trust in society’ [some philospher came with that, wikipedia.org]
From experiences, it makes sense. I lied because I don’t trust.

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Tired of doing the research and recording the findings cause I thought who actually is going to read it. 

I’ll finish off with the ’how to detect’ tips.

How to detect lies (blifaloo.com)
++ Beware of the truth ++

Body language
- physical expression will be limited and stiff. Movements of hands, arms, and legs are toward their own body.

- avoiding eye contact

- hands touching face, throat, and mouth or touching/scartching the nose/behind ear. NOT LIKELY to touch his/her chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional gestures and Contradiction
- timing and duration of emotional gestures are off normal pace. [delayed emotions, stays longer, or suddenly stop]

- off timing or unmatch between emotions gestures/expressions and words. eg, I love it *while opening the gift* — *open the gift* *smile* thne ‘i love it!

- expression are limited to mouth movements instead of the whole face. eg, real smiles will involve jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forhead push down.

Interactions and Reactions
- when guilty, person gets offensive. When innocent, person gets often get offensive.

- a liar usually gets uncomfortable facing the questioner/accuser (may turn his head or body away)

- a liar might unconsciously place objects between themselves and you.

Verbal Context and Content
- Liar will make use words of the question as the answer. eg, ‘Did you eat the last cookie?” – ‘No I did not eat the last cookie’

- a statement with a contradiction is more likely to be truthful.

- lying by making indirect statements, implying instead of denying

- guilty person speak more. add unnecessary details as they are not comfortable with silene/pauses during conversation.

- liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. when truthful statement is made, the prounoun is emphasized more than the rest of the words in a statement.

- words may be garbled/spoken softly, syntax and grammar may be off.

Other signs of a lie:
- sudden subject change will make innocent confused but liar more relaxed and follow willingly.

- humor and sarcasm is used to avoid subject.

I’ve got all the tips. Tomorrow, I’ll be sure to keep update to what’s going during the lie hunting and perhaps exercise the no-no of lying. lawl

G’night and G’morning everyone.
      -T

 

 

PS. I’m still upset about the fact that Heath Ledger is gone >.<

A Fallen Star

The morning routine, I jog. I come home. I turn on my laptop. I turn on the TV. “Heath Ledger Found Dead” was some new movie. Some new movie I thought?? huh.

In half hour, reality struck. There is only awee and jaw drop as I found out this Star REALLY died. He is gorgeous and talented. But How tragic, everything has to end this way.

At the age of 28, the Australian born actor, Heath Ledger, found dead in his New York Apartement tuesday, January 22, 2007 at 3.26pm.

The reason of Heath’s death has not been confirmed. It is suspected to be drug-related as Heath was lying unconcious with scattering pills on his bed.

He left a daugther, Matilda (2 years old), from former fiance Michelle Williams. 

Some movies Heath has starred:
10 things I hate about you
Brokeback Mountain
Knights Tale
I’m not there
Batman (I’m not sure of the title but it’s coming this Summer 2008)

What a shame T.T, what a waste life.

If I’m not mistaken, I read some random fact 2 days ago about Heath Ledger on people.com
It said that Jake Gyllenhall is Mathilda’s godfather. 

Now at least, we know that the daughter is at good hand and will have a father figure.

Rest In Peace – Heath Ledger

G’Morning

 Dream diary, something useless to keep this blog going (lol)

I’ve come up with 4 keywords/themes from last night dream and here are the closest interpretations.

1. I saw a close friend.
- to see your friends in your dream signifies aspect of your personality that you have rejected, but are ready to intergrate these rejected part of yourself. The relationships you have with those around you are important in learning about yourself. Additionally, this symbol foretells of happy tidings from them and the arrival of good news.

2. I was about to photocopy some documents
- To see or read a document in your dream, represent some important information. Information that is about to be made known to you. It symbolizes some discovery or realization.

3. Most of the time, I was in my bedroom, in my childhood home (? it’s bit questionable)
- To dream that you are in the bedroom, signifies aspects of yourself that you keep private. It is also indicative of your sexual nature and intimate relations.
- To see your home in your dream, signifies security, basic needs, and values. You may feel at home at home at your new job ot you finally settled and comfortable in a new environment.
- To see your childhood home in particular, suggests your own desires for building a family. It also reflects aspects of yourself that were prominent or developed during the time you lived in that home. You may experience some feelings or unfinished expressing of emotions that are now being triggered by a waking situation.

(www.dreammoods.com)

Analysis:

For the past hours, the document interpretation is somewhat significant. There was a segment in girl tv about girls loving to paint (art). She loves to paint portraits (just what I love to do) and has participated in various galleries and competition.

Aha! A sign. I feel encouraged especially when I see these girls’ paintings aren’t master or ubberly cool painting yet. (I can do better!)

About the childhood home, maybe it’s heading there. This morning when I took a morning jog, a teeny winny baby waved at me with his tiny hands. He tries his hardest to follow me while walking with his grandma. I just smiled and waved back — keep moving. yes, I’d like to have a family one day
And then there is the fact I’m missing home =(

I’m hoping there will be more about the suprising facts/ important information make known to me and I would like to know what part of me I’ve rejected.

Muahaha

I couldn’t help but laughing after I read this

The Best tips I’ve read so far. Check it out you guys!

Personal thought: My favorite is number 3 and the only reason why I clicked on the first place

I found something new

While I was about to write the next big thing, I thought I could use some new words. So, I type the lil ‘dictionary.com’

I looked at it closely. In sudden burse I said,

Halleluya!

I’ve been so good that I’ve got something for my itch, crosswords.

mehehe, so then blog,
I think I’ll come back to you as soon as I’m done finding NEW Words!